My daughter has a friend

[Dr.Teufel Geist]

no IG...I dont have kids,but I had pretty good experience being one.
I did teach 3-6 year olds for a few years, and they(all of 'em) had quite the imagination and yes even lied.
The 3 year olds may not know what the defination of a lie is,but they still lied.

Now,before yer blood starts pumping Emi, Know this..I am not saying yer daughter lied.
The whole Lie reference is aimed at what Witchmom78 said...

[Ali]

Emi- I don't think your little girl is making this up. I agree something most likely is happening. The change of routine with her not wanting the door closed, her laying in bed for hours, then waking up early. A three year old does not normally lie in bed for hours without getting up. They are active little beings.

I really cannot give you any different advice than you have already been given. I do think it is wonderful that you are showing no fear. Little ones will mimic the behavior of adults. With you being calm, most likely she will remain calm too.

Please keep us updated.

[WitchMom78]

(04-22-2010 09:54 PM)Dr.Teufel Geist Wrote:  no IG...I dont have kids,but I had pretty good experience being one.
I did teach 3-6 year olds for a few years, and they(all of 'em) had quite the imagination and yes even lied.
The 3 year olds may not know what the defination of a lie is,but they still lied.

Now,before yer blood starts pumping Emi, Know this..I am not saying yer daughter lied.
The whole Lie reference is aimed at what Witchmom78 said...

Before YOUR blood gets pumping Doc....I was saying about my OWN experience in not only teaching young toddlers in a pre-school setting but raising my own toddlers.

Do they have imaginations, you bet! and some are quite wild. But they dont have the capability to make up an elaborite lie! Not in my experiences anyways. Kids in class and kids of your own are two different ball games.

But...this is not an argument/debate/discussion we need to be having in Emi's thread. Now she posted that her daughter was kept awake by something and was asking for our opinion/advice. I suggest we not be so quick to judge in a case when a young child is envolved.

That being said...Emi, I thing you are doing the right thing! I do think your daughter is being kept awake by something because it reminds me alot of what my daughter went through at 2 years old.

Keep us posted

[scarygirl67]

What I will add is in my experience with toddlers...while I don't believe they have the concept of lying, I do believe they are impressionable..and that they respond to suggestions. I think the way you were asking her about things was the right way, Emi...in my opinion. I do think she said "ghost" because she heard you saying it...but she's telling you what she is seeing, and you are encouraging her..this is good!

[chosen1]

Off Topic - Thank's Scarygirl, could of waited a minute or two before posting LOL, time posted 3:13.

Kid's at a Young age do not normally lie etc, however they do listen to other people so if mixing with friend's etc then they can and sometime's do start to lie, from my own personal experience with my son.
The only advice that I can give is to try and not scare or show Your daughter that You are concerned in anyway.
Soft approach normally work's best in my oppinion.

[Haunted Lady]

Kids this age can be brutally honest, even when it's embarrasing to the parents! Ultimately Emi as a mother you know your child best. I always knew when my kids were 'pretending' or even telling stories. I don't doubt for a moment that what your little girl experienced was very real, and I applaud you for having enough wits about you to reach out for some guidance. I also think your little girl has a pretty awesome and understanding mom. The greatest gift you can give your little girl is believing her when something like this happens. I know how not having that support can be devastating to a child. Keep on doing what your doing lady...

[WitchMom78]

(04-23-2010 09:03 AM)Lady Kamae Wrote:  Kids this age can be brutally honest, even when it's embarrasing to the parents! Ultimately Emi as a mother you know your child best. I always knew when my kids were 'pretending' or even telling stories. I don't doubt for a moment that what your little girl experienced was very real, and I applaud you for having enough wits about you to reach out for some guidance. I also think your little girl has a pretty awesome and understanding mom. The greatest gift you can give your little girl is believing her when something like this happens. I know how not having that support can be devastating to a child. Keep on doing what your doing lady...

Very well put!

[PrincessEmi]

The night before last (Thursday) when my daughter went to bed I looked at the window and said "She needs to sleep so don't talk to her tonight." Then an hour later I checked on her and she was fast asleep. So I said "Thank you for letting her sleep" and walked out of the room. I wanted to show my appreciation because he/she could have kept her up again but respected my wishes. So then I get followed back into the office. Of course. My brow chakra starts to try and open. So I once again tried to communicate but I didn't get anything. I knew something was there. I got the chills on my back, the room felt different, and you can just tell when something wants your attention (like right now lol of course). I said I was sorry I couldn't help but thanks for not scaring me. I don't know what else to do but for now the situation is ok. My daughter got some sleep last night too. I don't think it's the same spirit that was here last week. That I think was a baby (it was grabbing my finger like a baby does).

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oh - and perhaps you all can start a new thread on children lying or actually seeing something...I have a feeling it would be a good one! hehe

[Indiangirl]

Again, you are a good Mom and I believe you are handling this perfectly. Whether it's real or not, you're giving your daughter what she needs to be comfortable.
Keep us posted!

[scarygirl67]

You're doing great, Emi! You're taking control, but you're doing it in a kind, respectful, and understanding way. May your daughter have many more peaceful nights of sleep.