Sudden change in my house

[swrong]

Thank you so much everyone! Georgia, I'd never thought of it that way, it does make sense though. I do hope it was a hug, seems odd though that he'd do that. It didn't feel good though. I did go down there and had a nice long talk with him, was very calm and nice, telling him of the hurt, pain, and disappointment, and told him that I'm sure if he knew then what he knows now, that he'd have been a better person. I told him that he does need to go though, that what's done is done and he cannot make it better, but I swore to him that true forgiveness will happen soon after he leaves my house, and that my rage is no longer there (which is very, very odd, I'm actually feeling quite peaceful after all these years!), so he had my word. I did invite him to sit down and talk with me, I waited, nothing. I asked him kindly (I had been ordering him) to leave, and told him that if he wouldn't leave on his own, that just as soon as my stuff all comes in, I'd be doing some smudging, and I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable, so it would be best if he'd leave now. It's been quite peaceful here, and more comfortable. I don't use all the lights on in the house that I was doing. Is he gone? I don't think so. Yesterday, most of my clocks (analog/digital/electric/battery) were messed up, displaying the wrong times. This has never happened before. If there's a power surge, the digital will show PF until you reset, these were different times. The battery ones aren't fast or slow, it was like the times were changed by hours and minutes. I'm pretty OCD about my times, they all have to be exactly the same, to the second (very time consuming!). Now they're all messed up. It's only a nuisance though, if that's the worse that can happen at this time, I'll deal with it, at least I'm not scared anymore! Oh, and last night before leaving with friends, I turned the hall light on and the light burned out right away. Coincidence? Could be, but it did kinda shake me up a little. I do have all the smudging stuff ready to go, but husband's out of town, so I'm going to wait until he gets back, just in case all hell breaks loose. I will sit down and have another chat with him before I start smudging and blessing though.

[Indiangirl]

I think you handled it well. It takes a lot of strength to be calm in your situation. I admire you. Let us know how it goes when your husband gets home.

[Georgia]

I am so glad you are finding some peace. I am really proud of you for talking to him. Asking him to go, while it's certainly better than ordering and threatening him, is not very likely to happen. He's your dad, and he wants to be a part of your life now, in a POSITIVE way - something he was never able to do before. The clocks and the light are just his way of letting you know he plans on sticking around, on watching over you, protecting you and loving you. You have absolutely NOTHING to be frightened of in your home. Tell him what is ok with you and what's not. ie: "Dad, you can watch over me and visit whenever you like - I want us to have a relationship too, but no freaking me out. If you want to let me know you are around, use the light in the bathroom or come into my dreams." I think he is trying to let you know too that you aren't home alone in the house, that he is stepping up his watch dog duties a little while your husband is out of town. He is actually trying to comfort you.

As for the sage, et al, save yourself some money and send it back. It's only effect is on you - what you believe you are doing to the house. Physical smoke doesn't have any effect on non-physical beings.

Best of luck, and again, kudos to you for being so loving and forgiving.

Georgia