ok, so i am trying to figure this out. I had another experience and i am going to write about it.
My hours at work got cut, and i went to the owner to ask what was going on. I wasnt sad at all i was more confused and angry. Well i soon as i said whats going on with my hours i busted out into crocodile tears and i kept telling her that i am sorry i dont know why i am crying that she didnt hurt my feelings or anything, and i kept trying to stop crying and i just couldnt. She looks at me and says " it is ok i have had a bad day already, the reason i was a little late getting in the morning was because i was at court getting a divorce." Then realized why i was crying, and i stopped being angry with myself for crying over no reason because i was for a reason i just didnt know the reason until a few minutes later.
What was so crazy about it was that i was perfectly fine until i stepped into her office and all of a sudden i was crying and crying. Its amazing how you can feel others emotions but its also draining and confusing.
I'm guessing you're an empath, right? I'm one too, and I can definitely relate to experiences like that.
I am i just discovered thats what it is. i am trying to figure out how to keep it under control. its kind of hard, but in some ways i like feeling what other people feel because i know someone without actually knowing them.
Sotherngirl, I am sorry that your bosses energy effected you so severely. It is hard to control others energy. You will learn with time to recognize the feeling of energy effecting you, and be able to remove yourself from the situation before you start crying. It is hard. You really have to be in tune with yourself. There are places and situations I have to avoid. They will effect me horribly. There has been times when I have been out in the public, and a strangers energy has overwhelmed me. I understand knowing them, without actually knowing them. I literally have to move far enough away not to have them effect me. I suggest if you cannot avoid a situation, envision yourself in a bright, bubble of loving light. It will give you a sense of protection.
ali, thank you that is useful info. i will deff. try that, i have always known i was different i cant be in crowds because i get so overwhelmed i have anxiety attacks and i cant breathe. I just got so caught up i cant get out of it, all i can think about is way am i crying or way am i angry whats going on, then i figure out and i think i can i control this so people dont think i am the biggest emotional ball of a human being lol. Yes, people give a second glances when i tell them stuff about themselves and i dont even know them.
Remember, you are not alone. There are quite a few of us sensitives on the forum. We all seem to experience the same thing to different degrees. We understand. Feel free to ask questions, and/or share your experiences.
Sometimes, I hate getting so emotional. But then again, I love having the gift of being able to feel energy, and sensing/knowing things. I would not trade it for anything. Once you understand the feelings more, I am sure you will be comfortable with the gift. My daughter has the gift too. It has become part of our everyday lives. As my mother (who had the gift) use to tell me, "It is just a little extra knowing".
Personally, I do not tell strangers what I am picking up on (That is just me, if you feel comfortable telling them...do it). I let them ramble to me, and I give my best advice. For some reason people seek me out when I go places. I do not understand strangers feeling compelled to tell me their life stories. I have come to accept it.
I was maybe 18 or 19 years old when the full effects of being empathic really hit me. There was a point in my life I didn't leave the house for months. I was unable to go to a grocery store, church, work...anywhere without crippling physical pain and emotional breakdowns. I had every medical and psychological test known to man...only to find I am perfectly healthy. I didn't know until many years later what I was experiencing.
I sought out pastoral counseling. I had found a church I loved, and a pastor I trusted. My at the time teenage daughter was going through a rough time with drugs and behavioral issues...I was entering seminary and stressed beyond belief. I figured counseling couldn't hurt.
While holding hands in prayer with my pastor I had terrible pain in my knees. I got brave and told her what I was feeling. She urged me to tell her more, tell me about her emotions. There was great sadness inside of her, that she hid deeply...and some difficulty at home, marital stress. As I told her what I was feeling I began to bawl like a baby...huge tears of sorrow.
She taught me how to differentiate and know what pain was and was not mine. For the first time, I had a name for what was 'wrong' with me...I was empathic. I came to understand that being empathic is one of the greatest and most powerful gifts one can be given. It lends to a heart of edification and building others up, compassion and love...
There's a reson for this gift. Those who are empaths are healers. Whether physical or emotional (not all have both forms of empathic gifting) those gifts are meant to be used in the healing of others.
Ali mentioned that people, strangers even just open up and tell their life stories...it's something I experience too. There are times I will be somewhere and not know a soul...and someone crosses the room to talk to me. Not just talk...unload on, every detail of their life. I always listen...knowing that sometimes people just need a shoulder to lean on. I am like a walking bandaid waiting for the wounded.
Learning to know when the pain isn't yours is the major hurdle...today you learned a big lesson, in finding that the emotion didn't belong to you after all. That's the key in being able to function and lead a healthy happy life...for those few months I locked myself away in the house, I hadn't known how to do that.
It will get easier, I promise.
My best friend is just like you.I know how you feel and what you are going through.So you are definitely not alone,there are many people with the same thing.In my friend case she can not be in large amount of people because she wasn't well to pick up this all energies.Sometimes the feelings were so strong she would faint out of all this.So for her it is even harder,but she somehow learned to deal with these things.She says that it is a gift but sometimes it is too strong for her.
You've gotten some really great advice here...and just knowing that you are not alone is going to be helpful.
Like Lady K, I would stay inside and isolate myself from people. Not because I wanted to, but because it just hurt so much to be around people. There's a lot of pain out there...and feeling it all can be overwhelming.
I still prefer being by myself, although I am a very friendly person. It just takes less energy to only have my own emotions to contend with. Mom told me when I was little (I don't remember much about this) but I would go up to total strangers and give them a hug if I could feel they were sad. My parents of course would caution me from doing this, although Mom says now that she feels they (she and my dad) were a little too harsh with me about it. They were just trying to be good parents and keep me from talking to strangers.
Now I have learned that you can reach out and touch people without having to physically do so. I too have people telling me their issues even when they don't know me that well. And I always try to be encouraging...but there are some people whose energies are very draining. It is important for you to replenish yourself and keep physically and emotionally strong. I agree wholeheartedly with Ali's advice..visualization of protection will keep too much of other people's energies from draining you. Lady K offered her experiences with it as well...so you sure know you are not alone now!
I wish all good blessings your way as you become more in tune with this gift. There are a lot of rewards that go along with some of the disadvantages, and that includes being able to identify with and help people. But always, always protect yourself first.
thank yall so much. My dad and I have started talking about this we talked last night, I know he is just like me, so i was telling him that we were empaths and trying to explain it to him. He said that he had never heard of that word, and we started talking and he realized that my papa has the gift he just blocks it, but he isnt very good at hiding it from me. My dad told me last night that he always thought it was going to be my older sister that was just like him not me.
I am 19 now! Every night i tell everyone in my house that its my private time to stay away from my room, because i need my time to get myself back. I didnt realize why i do that it never occurred to me thats how you get rid of everything, but i have always made everyone stay away from me and i will lock myself in my room at the end of everyday.
i have a bunch of questions but one i want to really ask is can we be connected to someone, by this i mean we were at the beach my 2 year old nephew was down farther away from me and i said dad i dont like him down there i dont want him down there, I got extremely scared like something was going to happen to him. After get the words out of my mouth he starts calling my name asking me to come get him, and i walked down and got, it was like he sensed i was scared for him. He sat in my lap for a little while then wanted to back back by his mom but every 10 min. or so i would have to walk to him and get him. Is there a way to be connected to certain people or is it possible that he will have the gift also?